I know I want to be a mom one day. My mom is my best friend, and I can’t imagine my life without our relationship. Also, the thought of creating a little human that is half of me and half of someone I love...well that’s a pretty cool concept. Realistically, I knew that becoming a mama was not on the horizon for me anytime soon since I am still looking for my future baby daddy - a very important part of this equation.
In my professional life, I am typically the youngest in the room. Since I often surround myself with people a decade or two older than me, I kept hearing more and more about colleagues’ and friends’ infertility issues. I learned the lengths they would go to in order to have a baby, and I began to understand the financial, emotional, and relationship stress that came along with this struggle.
My mid-twenty year old best friends and I doing everything and anything besides talking about our future fertility.
My mid-twenty year old friends and I are concerned with how to NOT get pregnant as we talk about IUDs and birth control and never discuss our future fertility. By spending time with people decades older than me, I realized this is a potential issue on the horizon for my younger friends and me who aren’t thinking or talking now about what our fertility will be like down the road.
I wear sunscreen to prevent skin damage, I eat veggies to prevent disease, and I work out to manage stress. I realized I take all these precautionary health measures, but I was not doing anything preventative to avoid the pain and stress of infertility.
After earning some extra money in my early twenties, I wanted to make an investment for my future. While I could buy a Louis Vuitton purse or Jimmy Choo pumps (Is my Miami showing?), I wanted to invest in something unique that could have a high future value. What is more unique and valuable than your own DNA?! I didn’t want my “treat yo self” big purchase to be some luxury item, where other people could go to the mall and buy the same exact thing. What’s unique about that? I figured this investment could be something that my future baby daddy and I could benefit from. What if I met him in a few years and we wanted to spend a few years without kids, traveling and enjoying one-on-one time together, instead of rushing into a having a baby? A few quiet, childless summers along the Adriatic sea in Croatia sound pretty nice! I don’t want my biological clock to dictate any future relationships’ supposed “timelines” and decisions.
While using my eggs is Plan Z, it’s a comforting feeling to know I can use them if needed. If I get pregnant naturally, I have 17 eggies to give to friends who may experience infertility issues or are gay and in need of donor eggs. Of course, giving my eggs to them is contingent on these friends wanting babies with a chance of blue eyes, wild curly hair, and incredible dance moves (that’s a joke!).
That being said, the decision wasn’t so straightforward and easy for me considering I live by the general health philosophy - less is more. I believe we should do everything in our power naturally to enable our bodies to be the best that they can be. Bodies are incredible things - we fight disease and knock out carcinogenic threats everyday. I do not take prescriptions unless I absolutely have to. Therefore, the concept of injecting myself up with hormones was very uncomfortable for me. The more research I did, the more I was at ease to understand these medication have been used in medicine for many years and these injections are man made versions of hormones that our body naturally produces. Learning more about the medications and their effects on my body allowed me to be vulnerable to this opportunity.
The second biggest hesitation was the misconception that freezing my eggs could affect my future chances of a natural pregnancy. I was concerned that taking eggs from my ovaries now meant less eggs in my ovaries for when I did want to get pregnant. I learned that this was a myth and egg freezing would not affect my chance of getting pregnant the natural way in the future. I learned that women actually lose roughly 100 immature eggs per natural cycle, so I figure I might as well salvage those little guys and give them a chance to mature into a viable eggs.
If you are considering freezing your eggs, I encourage you to read as much as you can, research your options in depth and chat with women who have frozen (and possibly have chosen not to freeze) that you trust and respect. Remember that this is your decision and only yours. So please take your time, do your research, and congratulate yourself for taking the time to do something to benefit your future self!
(Siddy, Rozay, Sid, Rack Siddy,
or any of my other many nicknames)